Married 10 Months!

9 Months of Marriage!

I LOVE MY BOY!

Russell took me out to Longhorn Steakhouse for dinner to celebrate the special occasion, and afterwards we went shopping and he bought me my birthday present...which I am SO excited about!!! (squeal) I am blessed! It's the best thing in the world to spend time with your favoritest person ever.

'Thou Shalt Not Facebook'

I don't agree with everything in this article (i.e. female ministers), but I think it has a very good point and is something to think about.

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Pastor Tells Church 'Thou Shalt Not Facebook'

Nov 17, 2010 1:58 PM EST

Thou shalt not commit adultery. And thou also shalt not use Facebook.

That's the edict from a New Jersey pastor who feels the two often go together.

The Rev. Cedric Miller said 20 couples among the 1,100 members of his Living Word Christian Fellowship Church have run into marital trouble over the last six months after a spouse connected with an ex-flame over Facebook.

Because of the problems, he is ordering about 50 married church officials to delete their accounts with the social networking site or resign from their leadership positions. He had previously asked married congregants to share their login information with their spouses and now plans to suggest that they give up Facebook altogether.

"I've been in extended counseling with couples with marital problems because of Facebook for the last year and a half," he said. "What happens is someone from yesterday surfaces, it leads to conversations and there have been physical meet-ups. The temptation is just too great."

Miller is married and has a Facebook account that he uses to keep in touch with six children, but he will heed his own advice and cancel his account this weekend.

On Sunday, he plans to "strongly suggest" that all married people to stop using Facebook, lest they endanger their marriage.

"The advice will go to the entire church," he said. "They'll hear what I'm asking of my church leadership. I won't mandate it for the entire congregation, but I hope people will follow my advice."

Miller said he has spoken from the pulpit before about the dangers of Facebook, asking married couples to give each other their passwords to the site.

"Some did. Others got scared and deleted their accounts right away. And some felt it was none of my business and continued on," he said.

Miller said he has gotten a mostly positive response so far among the leaders subject to his edict, which was first reported by the Asbury Park Press.

Pat Dawson, a minister at the church, uses her Facebook account to see photos of her relatives. She is unmarried and therefore not required to delete her account, but she agrees with Miller about the dangers such sites can create.

"I know he feels very strongly about this," she said. "It can be a useful tool, but it also can cause great problems in a relationship. If your spouse won't give you his or her password, you've got a problem."

The American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers says 81 percent of its members have used or been faced with evidence plucked from Facebook, MySpace, Twitter and other social networking sites in divorce cases over the last five years.

About one in five adults uses Facebook for flirting, according to a 2008 report by the Pew Internet and American Life Project. And a do-it-yourself divorce site in the United Kingdom, Divorce-Online, reported late last year that the word "Facebook" was appearing in about one in five of the petitions it was handling.

Miller says there are legitimate uses for Facebook, which is why he started an account a few years ago.

"People use it as an opportunity to invite others to social gatherings, to share Scripture or talk about what went on at church," he said. "Those are all positive, worthwhile things. But the downside is just too great."

One Month Anniversary!

The Lord has blessed me beyond anything I could have imagined or deserve. Today I have been married for a month. The time has flown by!!! Next to salvation, marriage is the best thing God ever made possible for humans to enjoy. I am so thankful for my sweet, godly, loving husband. I could not have gotten better! Yesterday evening I went out to dinner with my in-laws and they told me something that thrilled me. They said that since our marriage they have seen me complete Russell. I get the privilege of completing this precious man as his helpmeet. (Genesis 2:18 -- "And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.") I have always believed being a wife, homemaker, and mother is the highest goal and career a woman can have. God put that desire in every woman's heart---whether she chooses to admit it or not. Now I have been married for 1 month, and I can say from personal experience that being a wife and homemaker is the greatest and best!!! I never dreamed it could be so busy, so fun, and so fulfilling. It's a 24/7 job, but the pay is pure love. What more could anyone want? I love cleaning my little house, washing the laundry, and cooking good meals for my hubby. His reaction is worth the hard work and time spent.

I know of girls who would give anything for what I have--a cozy home and a loving husband. For some reason--I'll never know why!--God saw fit to look down from Heaven on this little wisp of a girl and shower His richest blessings down all over me. THANK YOU, LORD, for your blessings on me!!!

Russell surprised me after church on Wednesday and came home with these roses. He is so thoughtful and sweet! Yes, that is one word that describes Russell--thoughtful.

May the bud of our love grow richer and sweeter,
As we walk hand-in-hand behind our Great Leader.
For God's love is what binds our two hearts as one,
In this strength and His power our lives we've begun.

Our one month anniversary!

Praise God! He is good!