Showing posts with label words. Show all posts
Showing posts with label words. Show all posts

Wednesday, June 17, 2009

A Lesson From the Birds

I never thought I would say a bird inspired one of my posts. It’s amazing the spiritual comparisons we can find between nature and the Christian life. The Creator has left us an example in His creation of how things ought to be. If we took the time to stop and study the little creatures God made, we might learn some valuable lessons.

On Monday we noticed that a little brown bird was hanging around the backyard. It seemed to be hurt or sick and was huddled in a sheltered corner by my flower garden. Throughout the day we kept an eye on it, intending to keep away big birds that might hurt it. I think Josiah was hoping a cat would wander into the yard in search of fresh bird so he could have a good reason to do a little shooting. We all felt protective of the poor, little, helpless thing.

As evening settled, I happened to glance out the window and saw a beautiful sight. A very pretty black bird had a berry in its beak and seemed to be feeding the hurt brown bird which was still hiding. I called Mom and Josiah over to see what I thought I saw. We continued to watch, and sure enough, the black bird flew over to our currant tree, picked another berry, and brought it to the brown bird and fed it, like a mother bird feeds her babies. From what we could see, these birds were not even the same kind of fowl, and still the healthy one was caring for the hurt one. Tears shot into my eyes as I thought how wonderful it would be if people, Christians in particular, acted like that! How is it that birds understand this principle of caring, but humans don’t?

“Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour.
For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up.
Again, if two lie together, then they have heat: but how can one be warm alone?
And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken.”
Ecc. 4:9-12

Two are better than one. That little brown bird was sure blessed to have a friend in his time of need. Unable to move, he might have died had the black bird not taken it upon himself to bring food and show support. Unlike these birds, it seems to me that Christians enjoy seeking out the weak and vulnerable, and instead of showing care and concern, they only beat them down to a lower level. Is that a Christ-like action? Is that the kind of example Jesus gave us when He walked on earth? No. He used His strength and power to lift up the weak. He did not make a vain show of how strong and great He was by trampling the physically and emotionally trampled. Instead, He humbled Himself and stooped to our low level, seeking to bring us up to His.

Are we any better than Christ? If He who is the greatest of all would come to earth to serve, should we do any less? And then I look around at Christians today and marvel at what I see. How is it that we feel we have some God-given authority to assess a situation that is none of our business and pronounce judgment on another? Who made us God? How is it that everybody else had better be perfect and treat us accordingly, but we can have our little pet sin? How is it that Christians can tear each other to pieces behind their backs and then be sweet as syrup to the face? Have we lost our ability to blush? Where is the guilty conscience? The depravity of man is becoming more and more apparent. Christians have lost the respect of a lost and dying world…and it is our own fault!!! We behave in a most despicable fashion! What will we say when we stand before a displeased God to whose name we brought such shame? What will we answer Him on that day?

The birds lift up their voices in one glorious melody at the start and finish of each day, but we Christians are not content unless we are lifting up our voices and railing against one another. We sing the church hymns in unison, acting all holy and spiritual, but as soon as church is over we spread our venomous gossip from person to person. And then we have the audacity to complain that there is no unity in the church. The bottom line is that those who are grumbling about there being no unity are themselves destroying the unity, and that is why they feel there is no unity. God hates gossip. Gossip causes question and doubt and slowly erodes foundations of trust and commitment. Gossip is a tool used by the devil and those who are low enough to participate in his game. Satan hates unity. He wants Christian fighting against Christian so we have no time to fight against him. That is his strategy. And, sadly, many foolish Christians are falling for his deceptions.

There are two different kinds of gossip. One is called gossip and truly is gossip, and another is called gossip by those who like to gossip and don’t want to be identified for it. Some people gossip and some people send warning messages. There have been several times when somebody has told me something about somebody in warning of their hidden character. There have been times when I was thankful to have been alerted, for I might have made a terrible mistake otherwise. Here is how you differentiate between a gossiper and a “warner.” A “warner” will warn you and then drop the subject. A gossiper will “warn” you and then proceed to tear that person to shreds.

“The wicked plotteth against the just, and gnasheth upon him with his teeth.
The Lord shall laugh at him: for he seeth that his day is coming.
The wicked have drawn out the sword, and have bent their bow, to cast down the poor and needy, and to slay such as be of upright conversation.
Their sword shall enter into their own heart, and their bows shall be broken.”
Psalm 37:12-15

The wicked plotteth against the just, and gnasheth upon him with his teeth. You know what that means? A wicked person (gossiper) will chew on another person until the juice of his character is pressed out and every fiber of his person is torn and trashed. A gossiper will cut down his victim to another until the one listening no longer has any respect or trust in the individual being victimized. People who do that are like snakes whose poison destroys all who are injected with it. The same tongue that gossiped to you will turn around and gossip about you. A gossiping tongue knows no boundaries. You could just be the next victim. Beware! “A lying tongue hateth those that are afflicted by it; and a flattering mouth worketh ruin.” (Proverbs 26:28) Proverbs 17:4 also says that those who participate by listening to gossip are just as guilty--the Bible says they are wicked! “A wicked doer giveth heed to false lips; and a liar giveth ear to a naughty tongue.”

These six things doth the LORD hate: yea, seven are an abomination unto him:

1. A proud look
2. A lying tongue
3. Hands that shed innocent blood
4. An heart that deviseth wicked imaginations
5. Feet that be swift in running to mischief
6. A false witness that speaketh lies
7. He that soweth discord among brethren

Do you rejoice when your enemy falls? Do you laugh at those who are hurting? Do you mock those who make mistakes? To do that is to imply that you think yourself above that person. You are exalting yourself as being better. You have a higher opinion of yourself than Jesus Christ did of Himself…He who was worthy to think such a thing! Christ was certainly better than the human race, yet, did He mock us for our multiple mistakes? Did He ridicule us for trying and failing? Did He laugh as our bodies were wracked with pain and His was not? No. He saw our weakness as an opportunity to care. He had compassion. Compassion--that is something that is missing in Christianity today. A healthy bird has compassion on a sick bird, but a Christian does not have the heart to care about another Christian--a human being his equal.

Proverbs 17:5 says that “Whoso mocketh the poor reproacheth his Maker: and he that is glad at calamities shall not be unpunished.” Poor doesn’t have to mean poor as in money. It can mean being poor in health, position, or possession. Usually whatever is below a person’s standard of “normal” is what they consider poor. We have our own standard of what we consider to be poor, but God measures the term “poor” according to His standard. The Lord looks past a bank account, the cars sitting in the driveway, and the value of a house. He measures a person not by the things which they possess, but by the spirit they possess. How is your spirit towards others? We would be wise to check that, because that is the thing by which God measures the value of a man or woman.

If you look at that verse closely you’ll see that God takes the mockery of others as a personal thing. “Whoso mocketh the poor reproacheth his Maker.” We are created in His image. If you can laugh at someone, then you are really laughing at God and underestimating His design of that person who He created and fashioned in the womb with His own hands. God takes the mockery of others as a highly personal thing! You are reproaching GOD. Be careful! Psalm 139:4 reminds us that “There is not a word in my tongue, but, lo, O LORD, thou knowest it altogether.” God knows. Not a one of us can hide anything from Him.

Look at the last part of Proverbs 17:5. “He that is glad at calamities shall not be unpunished.” It is in our human nature to feel a measure of satisfaction when those who have wronged us suffer. In the last week or so that is something I’ve really had to struggle with. It’s not easy to endure the unjust accusations and hurtful reproach of those who have something against my family. In my flesh I think how glad I will be when they suffer for their sin. But that is not very Christ-like. Yes, they will pay, for the Bible guarantees that our sin will find us out. But I should not wish for their destruction. “Rejoice not when thine enemy falleth, and let not thine heart be glad when he stumbleth: Lest the LORD see it, and it displease him, and he turn away his wrath from him.” (Proverbs 24:17-18) Over and over there is a clear warning in the Bible that we will reap what we sow. The boomerang always comes back. I’ve seen this in my own life. God has made me love the things I once hated. He has changed my will and my desires around. The things that I dislike in others I suddenly see growing up in my own life. Then, realizing how despicable they are in my sight, I understand that I am no better than another in God’s eyes. It is a humbling thing, to say the least. We do reap what we sow! And that boomerang always comes back. Don’t delight in the sufferings of another. It could just be that you are about to experience similar suffering. Then you will wish you had had a more compassionate spirit…a more Christ-like spirit.

We’ve kept a watchful eye on our hurt little visitor. He seems to have made his home in our yard. Once again, the black bird appeared yesterday evening to feed the little brown bird. We’ve also noticed two little sparrows are hanging around the hurt bird. At first we thought they were going to hurt it or steal the currant berries and sunflower seeds we had set out. But, no! They seemed to hop around the little hurt bird, not pecking and tormenting it, but encouraging it, rather! Whenever the little sparrows or the black bird came near he seemed to get excited, as though his friends were cheering him on and giving him hope to press on. It’s really been quite amazing to see the apparent communication and encouragement being passed between these creatures of God.

If only we would be more like these birds! If only we would follow their example to support and encourage the suffering and wounded instead of tearing each other down. The birds join together as one force against their predators--the cats. If Christians would do the same, we might be able to strike a little fear into that old devil. We need to stop being pawns in his hand. We need to stop playing in his game. It’s about time we stopped allowing him to control our minds and instead were under the mind control of the Holy Ghost. I think we Christians have already done a pretty good job of trashing our testimonies for the Lord. After the things I’ve witnessed in the last two weeks, I don’t blame anybody for not wanting to get saved after seeing what losers so many Christians are. Neither do I blame Christians for not wanting to attend a church because so many church goers are hypocrites. It doesn’t make it right, but it sure makes you think when you look at us from their point of view!

If we don’t start acting different--and I mean totally different--than this world, we are going to totally lose any influence we could have for the cause of Christ. Christian, it is time for CHANGE! And it starts on a personal level. You have to change before you can expect others to change. Gossip starts with one person affecting another person. Likewise, revival starts with one person affecting another person. Both start with only a small flame but can turn into a sweeping forest fire with astounding results. We have the opportunity to spark two very different “fires”--gossip or revival. Which one are you going to start?

Sunday, May 24, 2009

Watch Your Words; Keep Your Words

Words are a powerful thing. Words can build up, or words can destroy. God’s written Word, the Bible, will build us up and strengthen us, whereas man’s words will often bring us sorrow and disappointment. I’m thankful I can trust God to keep His word…and to keep my words spoken to Him in secret. 

I marvel as I look back on my life. The day we left the States to be missionaries to the country of Holland I considered it a tragedy that I had to leave all my friends behind. Little did I realize that our separation would be the biggest blessing! Truly, God does work ALL THINGS together for good to them that love Him. The Lord took what looked like a bad thing and used it for my better interest. I am reminded of Joseph’s words to his brothers in Genesis 50:20: “But as for you, ye thought evil against me; but God meant it unto good.” If you are serving God wholeheartedly, He is going to use what seems like bad or unfortunate circumstances for His glory and your benefit. 

It wasn’t always easy for my siblings and me to be without young friends our age. The fact is, life became a lot harder when some children in the neighborhood began playing with us. We were put in difficult circumstances and under pressure to do bad things by these “friends.” Sometimes they would talk about things we weren’t allowed to be talking about. A series of minor issues caused my parents to encourage us to slowly separate from our friends. I’m so thankful for my parents’ wise insight. They were looking into the future and seeing what problems would arise if we became polluted by these children. As we grew older, it was clear that our neighborhood friends were going in a different direction, and separation was the only option. That was hard at first, but it got easier with time.    

I used to think I was deprived, not having friends my own age. Besides my siblings I really didn’t have anybody to play with. This caused my family and me to bind in extra special ways. Instead of clinging to my best friends for joy and happiness in life I learned to seek out the Best Friend a girl (or boy) could ever know. Proverbs 18:24 tells of a friend that sticketh closer than a brother. This Friend is Jesus. His arms are outstretched to anyone who is searching to be close to Him. I’m thankful that 13 years of my life were divinely directed away from flighty friends to the ever-faithful Friend, Jesus!

Now I’m 21. I look back on those years as a teenager. Honestly, if you paid me a million dollars I wouldn’t do them over…and this is with growing up in a Christian home and the Lord as my comfort and strength through those years of maturing. I remember the mood swings, the rebellious feelings that would try to take control. There were times when my mom and I really clashed. Those years were crucial. I’m so thankful that my parents were deeply involved in my life and spent their time and energy to make sure I would turn out okay. I thank God for His protection during those years of extreme vulnerability. 

One thing my parents always told me was to talk to them. If I needed to share my thoughts and feelings, they always made themselves available. Fact is, many times I remember Mom sitting on my bed, willing me to talk, but the words just wouldn’t come. Sometimes you just can’t express your emotions with words. Sometimes words aren’t good enough. I remember crying. I felt like a war was raging inside me. I wanted to be a good girl, but it seemed no matter how hard I tried, I was always failing. Everything inside was in turmoil. I felt like I was all alone and nobody could possibly understand. I didn’t realize that my mom had once been in the very place I was in, only she didn’t have the privilege of being brought up in a Christian home, and she didn’t get saved until she was 21. 

Words. I’ve been thinking about them lately, and the great impact they can have on our lives. Our words, or words spoken by others, can make or break us. Proverbs 18:21says, “Death and life are in the power of the tongue.” Words have the ability to start world wars, and words have the ability to create peace. How very important our words are! 

I came across this thought-provoking quote recently:

Watch your thoughts, for they become words.
Watch your words, for they become actions.
Watch your actions, for they become habits.
Watch your habits, for they become character.
Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny. 
  
The Bible says that “out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh.” Thoughts do become words. Have you ever had this happen to you, where you are doing something and talking to somebody and suddenly something having to do with what you are thinking about will suddenly pop out of your mouth? I’ve had that happen before. Sometimes it’s funny; sometimes it’s embarrassing. The thoughts we entertain will eventually become verbalized with words. What do you think about? What do you talk about? To whom do you talk?  

My parents always encouraged me to talk to them, not my friends. They knew all too well the devastating results of girls tittering to girls about foolish things and then stabbing each other in the back. My mom has always been there to listen to my words. Words of sadness, words of frustration, words of hope. Now that I’m a grown up lady, I count my mom my best friend. We’ve been through a lot together, and that had made us strong. I know I can confide in Mom, and she will always understand, or at least try to understand. I’ve been able to tell my mom the deepest secrets of my heart, and she has faithfully kept them to herself…which is what a true friend does! Friends our own age will often betray us, but the Lord never will, and if our parents love and are serving God, they never will either. Our parents should always be the ones to whom we turn when we feel the need to share our feelings and dreams.    

Proverbs 25:2 says, “It is the glory of God to conceal a thing.” Some thoughts and words need to be hidden away safely, like a treasure. There was a time when the Lord showed me something from His Word…something that left me in shock for days…and I kept this secret to myself. It was too wonderful and precious to tell. Never had God given me such clear and specific instruction as to His will for my future. For weeks I concealed this thing, and then when I felt I could find the words to describe it, I went to my parents. It would have been fun to tell one of my girlfriends, but I realized that only my parents could appreciate the seriousness of this subject. To approach a friend before my parents would naturally cause them to assume that my news wasn’t as serious as I believed it to be. The king’s messenger will not be sidetracked or convinced to share his confidential message with anyone besides the one who should be receiving it. To spread the news before delivering it to its rightful owner would be to dilute its message. For this reason, I kept my precious secret, only sharing it with my parents, who I knew I could trust. 

Proverbs 29:11 says, “A fool uttereth all his mind: but a wise man keepeth it in till afterwards.” In a long list of “times,” Ecclesiastes 3:7 mentions, “A time to keep silence, and a time to speak.” There is a time and a place for everything. There is a time to say what is in your heart, and there is a time to keep it quiet. A foolish person says everything he/she is feeling inside, but a wise person hides it in his/her heart, ponders it, and keeps it “till afterwards.” Proverbs 10:32 says, “The lips of the righteous know what is acceptable: but the mouth of the wicked speaketh frowardness.” Do acceptable things come from your mouth? A Christian should never go around saying things that make him/her look foolish or that make light of serious things. Watch your words! Keep your words! 

The Bible, especially Proverbs, is full of instructions as to how we should use our lips and what words should come out of them. Proverbs 10:19 says, “In the multitude of words there wanteth not sin: but he that refraineth his lips is wise.” God gave us two ears and one mouth. That means we should be twice as quick to listen as to speak. And not everything we hear is supposed to be passed on to others. Maturity and godly integrity will cause us to know what is right for us to say to somebody else and what is not right. The Lord doesn’t appreciate gossiping tongues, neither do other people! Can your friends trust you enough to talk in your presence without you spreading every little thing they say around the church, neighborhood, etc.? Proverbs 20:15 says, “There is gold, and a multitude of rubies: but the lips of knowledge are a precious jewel.” Are your lips like a precious jewel? 

If you honor your friends, it’s likely that they will honor you. Your TRUE friends won’t embarrass you by spreading your secrets around. Somebody said, “If you wish another to keep your secret, first keep it to yourself.” Very wise suggestion! Because “he who gives up the smallest part of a secret has the rest no longer in his power.” People will turn around and twist your words to another person so they end up hurting you. You can become ensnared by your own words if you aren’t careful who you confide in. Proverbs 18:8 says, “The words of a talebearer are as wounds, and they go down into the innermost parts of the belly.” Ouch! That sounds painful. It is! I know from experience.     

Watch your thoughts, for they become words.
Watch your words, for they become actions.
Watch your actions, for they become habits.
Watch your habits, for they become character.
Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny. 

Our thoughts, our words, who we confide in…all these things have the power to change a person for the better or for the worse. Our words are so very important! Watch your words. Keep your words! They have the power to shape your future!